Say what you want to check
Start with the situation: you are arranging a date, discussing a purchase, or agreeing to work together. Ask for the relevant detail rather than a complete identity file. For example: “Before we meet, could you share your verified photos? Happy to send mine too.”
Open the link and read the checks
A shared Realr shows the details its owner chose to include. Read the individual verification labels. A phone check, a government ID check and verified photos answer different questions. A missing detail may simply be private; do not treat it as proof of dishonesty.
Keep documents out of the chat
You can ask for a verification result without requesting a passport photo, home address or phone number. The other person can choose what to share, and you can decide whether that is enough for your plans.
Make the next decision separately
Identity verification does not tell you whether someone will deliver an order or behave safely. For a purchase, check the item and payment terms. For a first meeting, make your own safety plan. You are allowed to pause or decline without arguing.