For dating apps, DMs, and first dates
Check your match before you meet.
Ask for their Realr. It shows a real person, their real age and their own photos.
- Real person
- Over 18
- Photos
- Government ID
SofiaMatched on a dating app · SeattleWe should grab a drink this weekend!
I’d love to. Before we meet, could you send your Realr?
Of course. Here.
What it shows
What your match’s Realr can show.
- Real person
- Their own photos
- Over 18
- Here right now
- Instagram is theirs
- People who know them vouch
Before you meet
Ask them to prove it’s them.
Send one link in your chat. They choose what to show you.
“I ask for a Realr before a first date. Then I send mine back.”
Try it. What do you want to know?
Before we meet, could you share your verified photos?
Their answer
They proved 3 things
- Free to send. Free to answer.
- They can say no.
- It ends after fourteen days.
Their photos
See their photos are really theirs.
Verified photos are checked to be the person’s own.
Your side
Send them your dating profile.
Your photos and your checks. No phone number, no social accounts.
Dating profileJordan
realr.me/jordan
- Real person
- Over 18
- Photos
On the day
Ask for a photo taken right now.
Proof they’re there now, not an old photo. It ends by itself.
A live check
Here right now
Anyone they send it to can see it for a short while.
How it works
Prove who you are in three steps.
Check your face and ID
Your ID is checked once. It is never shown to anyone.
Choose what people see
Show the checks they need. Hide the rest.
Send your link
In a chat or as a QR code. They open it without an account.
Privacy
They see the check, never your ID.
People see that a check passed. They never see your documents.
- ID documents
- Date of birth
- Phone number
- Legal name, unless you share it
Questions
Questions people ask.
How do I know the photos are theirs?
Ask for their verified photos. They are checked to be the person’s own, not taken from someone else.
Doesn’t a blue tick prove it?
A blue tick says an account exists. A Realr shows a real person, a verified age and verified photos.
Can they prove they’re there right now?
Yes. Ask for a live check. It shows they are there right now, not in an old photo, and it ends by itself.
Is it safe to meet once they’ve verified?
Realr checks who someone is. It does not check their intentions. Swap links first, then plan a first meeting you are comfortable with.
How do I know someone online is real?
Ask for their Realr. It shows a real person check, a verified age and verified photos, so you know a real person is behind the profile. You send yours back, and neither of you hands over documents.
What are the signs of catfishing?
They avoid video calls. Their photos look too polished, or turn up under another name in an image search. Their story keeps changing, and they push to move off the app fast. Ask for a verified profile. A real person check tells you more than a profile photo. It does not tell you their intentions.
How do I check someone before a first date?
Swap Realr links before the date. Each link shows a real person with checked photos. No home address or ID number is shown.
Is it safe to share my Realr?
Yes. It shows that your checks passed: real person, age, photos. It never shows your documents, and you choose what a stranger can see.
Open a made-up example profile:
Priya